When we talk about company culture, the conversation
often goes right off the rails. The conversation is generally about practices
that are ridiculous, unwritten rules, and people that are frequently
characterized and “crazy” or “idiotic”.
I remember when I viewed the people I worked with the
same way. I described myself as “astonished” or “amazed” at what some “idiot”
had done. “Any child would know better!” I would say. But I wouldn’t talk to
them about it. It wouldn’t do any good PLUS they were friends with the bosses
and I would get fired.
I didn’t spend a LOT of my career thinking that way,
because I was a single father and HAD to keep a job continuously – I couldn’t “job
hop”. With the economy the way it is now, I am sure there are lots of you that
feel the same pressure.
I decided I had to talk to someone – my boss – about some
of these things. He wasn’t very much help. He kind of patted me on the head and
asked me to figure out how to work with it because it wasn’t changing any time
soon.
I waited until I once again was the recipient of some
work that was all screwed up in a way that was INDEFENSIBLE. “NOW I have them!”,
I thought. “Certainly I can get them to
change this!” I confronted the guilty party and we argued bitterly, me telling
them that what they did was stupid and them telling me that I didn't know what I
was talking about… that everything was fine and exactly as it should be and if I
knew ANYTHING I would know that. Which of course is impossible – I know EXACTLY
what’s right. Don’t I? So in this guy’s version of the story, I am the idiot.
I immediately got
busy coming to understand what was happening with this instance. I found he was
doing things just as he was instructed, the instructions that were given to me
were new, and the person that gave me the instruction hadn’t considered all of
the factors.
What I realized YEARS later was that the reason I called
the one guy an idiot, AND the reason I imagined there was some “unseen hand”
guiding all this, and that talking to them wouldn’t do any good was because I was
afraid. I was afraid that the confrontation would go bad, I was angry that I had
to do it in the first place (why not my boss), I was afraid I would be
embarrassed, and I had imagined all kinds of things from a fist fight to long
term hurt feelings. All of the things wrong
were things going on in my head because of what I was not paying attention to
the FACTS and being manipulated by my fear of what MIGHT happen.
This obviously had less to do with “the company culture”
and what I THOUGHT the company culture was. I set about to prove this by
learning to act differently. I began saying “I am going to assume that everyone
here just wants us to do well. I am going to say that THAT is the company
culture, and act accordingly”. Things got a lot better, but I also found out
that my assumption wasn’t necessarily true, that there were lots of people that
were not very concerned about the company at all. So after learning that the
company wouldn’t just get rid of them, I needed to find a way to get the most
out of them to move the company forward. More than that, the process had to build
the people in the process, and make them feel more engaged and more able. Even
though I can’t make everyone feel the way I feel , I can help many of them see
that working in a successful company, and being a big part of a company’s
success, is better than the alternative.
There are 11 steps to doing better. The first five are:
- 1. Establish credibility
- 2. Develop productive relationships
- 3. Begin optimizing your communication style
- 4. Learn to coach
- 5. Learn to manage and lead
I will start working through each of them next time, and
you will learn quickly and easily how to get more satisfaction and cooperation
than you ever have. Until then, look at the things that make it hard for you to
get excited about your job. Notice how your coworkers are apparently fully
competent in their jobs, but they are hard to work with. Consider the
possibility that they don’t have to change for it to become easier.
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